By Rachel Comish
It seems like all people focus on now is being in a relationship. It’s all about finding the right guy so you can do things like go on romantic dates, have a permanent dance partner, and have a date for Valentines Day and weddings.
People are forgetting to enjoy being single! Sure, there are perks to being in a relationship. But there’s something to be said of independence.
One of the best times to be totally focused on yourself is college. There are so many opportunities to get to know yourself and what you want from life.
1. Study Abroad
Take a semester off to explore a different education. I studied abroad in London during my sophomore year, and it was the most amazing experience. I discovered a new side to myself and became more independent. As a student, I got cheaper tickets to shows and museums, which definitely beat sitting in a classroom.
2. Teach English
Live in China or Mexico or Russia, and teach English to cute kids. Find a host family to help you adjust, and meet some genuine natives. It would be so cool to learn the language, develop teaching skills, or just make memories.
3. Disney College Program
Work at a Disney theme park. You can choose what kind of job to do in the park, and they take care of your housing and transportation. Also, a free Disney pass is like a do-over with your childhood. I am twenty-two years old, and I regress to a giddy child whenever my feet touch Disney soil.
I am a college graduate, and still making travel plans. Post college is a great time to figure out your life. Once you graduate, you’re expected to grow up and get a real job. But if you have a little time and money, take a break. Spend the weekend in Los Angeles, go see a Broadway musical, swim with dolphins in Florida.
If you want to go big, take a backpacking trip through Europe. You don’t need much, and the biggest expense is the plane ticket. Hostels are rent-a-bed cheap hotels that usually serve breakfast and dinner. I’ve stayed at a few, and while I would recommend wearing flip-flops in the shower, it was actually really fun.
Going on endless first dates sucks, but you know what doesn’t suck? Spending money on a plane ticket without asking permission from a spouse. Taking off to a foreign country without stressing about someone else’s schedule. Changing your mind about when to work at an orphanage in South America and having it affect no one but yourself.
That is awesome. That is incredible. And that is a learning experience. People are in such a rush to be successful and responsible. They want the perfect guy, the fantastic job, and the dream house. Don’t rush.
There is so much time, and spending some of that time to figure out who you are is not a waste. Get to know yourself before committing to a relationship. And if you’re going to focus on yourself, why not do it at a café in Paris?
(Gif via Metro-Goldwyn-Mayer/New Line Cinema)