By Melanie Walker
September 22nd marks the beginning of our trees turning into their yearly collage of golden, reds, oranges, browns as they paint the side of your street with a myriad of fallen leaves and dusty fog. A chill will send shivers into the air as you smell of pumpkin pie and cuddle up to your loved ones.
September 22nd marks the beginning of the beautiful season of Autumn where you reflect on what you are grateful for as the year turns the sands of time to a close. Or, as many like to call it…
Pumpkin Spice Lattes. Aztec-print sweaters. Ugg boots. Leggings. Crunched leaves. Sweater headbands. Infinity scarves. #ilovefall.
I think our Instagrams are more ready for fall than you are.
Though I often find myself silently-chuckling as I scroll through my Instagram after three leaf-crunching and rider boots pictures, I have a problem with the culture that comes along with the changing of the seasons. And it’s not a problem with the basics on my newsfeed.
Basically, I have a problem with Basic-Shaming (#basicshamers).
Basic Shamer(n): Someone who has ever shamed women during a particular season for posting a common thread of pictures often found among many women in the turning of the seasons; someone who has ever referred to another female as a, “basic bitch.”
Let me explain. I have a problem with people shaming others for things that they like or like to do. We live in a culture where everyone feels like they can say what they want without consequence. Everyone feels like they have expertise on whatever they decide because they have a published platform where they can convey those opinions.
But if everyone is an expert on culture trends, what is exactly considered tasteful or acceptable? Just because someone doesn’t like something, it’s suddenly considered shameful or embarrassing? Who are they to call these girls “#basicbitches” just because they like to pumpkin spice all the things and smell all the fall scents?
I can tell you what’s NOT tasteful: considering someone “basic” because they like something that a lot of other people enjoy, too. And for the record, it’s perfectly normal to wear sweaters when it gets cold. And Ugg boots will probably never go out of style.
While I don’t Instagram my cozy fall sweaters, I’d be lying if I didn’t occasionally trade my usual Tazo Passion Tea for a delicious Pumpkin Spice Cream Frappuccino. Is that something I should ever be ashamed of? No freaking way. Those things are bomb in the fall.
As women, we need to be building each other up instead of tearing each other down. We need to stop calling each other degrading things for something as small as a post on Instagram. Because the truth is, I do not give a flying flip what kind of shoes my friends wear because I am too busy living my life to even care.
So if you’re a classified basic…
Girl, you do you. You post those selfies sitting on a pumpkin with your bestie. Don’t even apologize for being #basic, because you must be having a fab time with your friend.
If you’re someone who doesn’t like basic things…
Girl, you do you. Way to have a unique taste and uncommon interests.
If you’re someone who has ever used the term or called someone a “basic bitch”…
Just stop. Someone needs some serious chill.
Whatever people like or don’t like, keep your mouth closed about it unless you’re celebrating them. We need more lady-positivity instead of shaming in this world.