By Melanie Walker
Your 20’s are the notorious years for growth, experience, and maybe even a little bit of trouble. Our 20’s is such an elastic period that shapes us into who we will be for our later adult years. Which also means that it is such a crucial period for making good habits.
Millennials, you’ve got 10 years to get through your 20’s and a lot is going to happen in this decade. That’s plenty of time to form good habits and maybe break some too. Here’s a list to get started:
10 Habits to Break
1. Making it all about you.
And I’m saying this as kindly as possible. Other people’s actions are usually not a direct correlation to what you said 2 weeks ago, or what you wore today. Just because that person seemed distant to you today at your coffee date doesn’t necessarily mean that they have beef with you now. So stop stressing!
2. Blaming yourself for things.
Your 20’s is a time to make mistakes! You have much bigger things to worry about then that one accidental-offensive comment you wrote on your friend’s wall that she now doesn’t speak to you over. Learn from it, and move on.
3. Making enemies.
Not even “frenemies”. Just try your hardest to be kind to everyone. You don’t like someone? Suck it up and be nice to them. You don’t have to be friends with them-- just be civil.
4. Allowing others to clean up after you.
Do. Your. Dishes. Pick up your stuff! Don’t be that roommate.
5. Keeping your high school wardrobe.
We get it. Your Varsity Cheer sweatshirt or that frilly flowery shirt holds a ton of memories. That’s fine… for a while. But as you progress into your later 20’s, it’s time to ditch the old garb and go for a more sophisticated and classy style. Your 20’s is the prime time to discover what your style is and how you want to present yourself.
6. “Anything goes” Interior Design.
See #5. Ditch your neon green walls for some classy neutrals. Find some nice artwork. Less is more.
7. Blaming others for when you make a mistake or fall short.
As much as it sucks, adults need to be responsible. Own up to your mistakes and learn how to say you're sorry.
8. Using your phone at dinner.
Texting while you’re out with your friends is something high schoolers do. When you’re going to be somewhere, really be somewhere. As you progress in your 20’s, you won’t see your highschool/college buds as much, so enjoy their company while you can!
9. Comparing yourself to others.
It can be pretty discouraging when you’re the only person at your family dinner table who's single, or when that one girl on Instagram puts others to shame with her travel photos she magically can afford. But take a deep breath. Everyone has their own story-- including you.
10. Dwelling in the past instead of the future.
Sure, it’s natural to feel nostalgic at time. But don’t pull a Gatsby, and look forward to the future! Otherwise, you’re going to miss good things in front of you.
10 Habits to Make
1. Read, read, read!
Reading is the best way to enrich your mind and make yourself cultured, as well as improving your writing, your thinking, and your speaking
2. Moisturize—especially at night.
Get into the habit of moisturizing your face before sleep. Your 59-year-old self is going to thank you for it.
3. Wear sunscreen.
Sure, magazines say that tan skin is sexy, but we think healthy skin in your late 30’s is much sexier. Listen to your mom and lather up.
4. Hobby shop.
Find what you love! Try hiking, biking, writing, cooking… Anything! Find what you love.
5. Fold your clothes.
A clean and organized living space helps you think better and improves your zen.
6. Get good grades.
Done-zo are the days where not trying is cool. Work for good grades in college, and you will carry that work ethic with you into your career.
Get out of the habit of splurging your money. Learn how to budget, and find a budget plan that works well for you. Ask friends or family what they do or research online.
Even with a crazy schedule, you can always find time. Even if it’s only for 30 minutes a day or a run in the evening. Pin 30-min workouts on Pinterest. Work-out as soon as you get home from work to keep your stamina going. This will prevent so many problems in 20 years.
Plan things out: whether it’s setting goals, planning your life, or organizing that camping trip with yours buds. Spontaneity will happen naturally.
10. Invest time in real friends.
Have a toxic friend affecting your confidence? Maybe it’s time to let him/her go. Real friends are hard to come by, so surround yourself with good people that are a good friend to you and teach you how to be a good friend.
You got this. The good news is, you have an entire decade to figure things out. So get going!